This week is a bit tricky. I have so many thoughts going through my mind and I don't really know which ones to share with you and which ones to save for later. Whichever way this goes, just know that at the end of this blog, there will be something for you to nibble on.
So while I was pondering which meal to dish up today, I had a very interesting conversation with a friend of mine. One day I will unpack the conversation and hopefully share it as a blog. For now, just entertain this part of the conversation.
While I was talking to my friend, I end up confessing that I'm struggling with packaging a particular message for someone. I'd like to tell them something, but I'm concerned about the timing and I'm also concerned about my current situation/circumstances/frustrations seeping into and diluting the message.
Have you ever been through a similar situation? Where you are going through something, and in the process you learn certain things, you observe certain things and certain people, and your overall experience changes. Now you want to tell them what you are going through/experiencing and how what you've observed makes you feel, but then doubt the validity of the message? (That's a very long question, I hope it makes sense - if it doesn't please read it again and insert a smiley emoji here).
You start asking yourself if what you want to say is true or if it's merely rooted in what you are currently going through. And if you are like me, you start trying to figure out how to say what you want to say without letting your frustrations affect the message.
So I asked this friend of mine, what do I do? How can I say this without letting that affect it? And he simply said:
The experience is what validates the message.
And it blew my mind!
I started thinking back to all the times in the past where I did not say something because I didn't want it to look like I'm only saying it because of what I'm currently experiencing. And I realized a simple truth. What I need to say now only exists because of what I am experiencing. If things were different the message would be different.
So what am I saying to you? What am I asking you to think about? What do I want you take out of this?
1. Timing is everything. Do not let bad timing invalidate your truth. Your truth will be still be your truth, but if shared at the wrong time, it will never be our truth. The trick here is realizing that you need to share your truth in such a way that it is palatable.
2. The experience validates the message. What you want to say has the weight it does simply because of the experiences related to it. Not just some of them, all of them. You are the sum total of everything you have experienced, good and bad. Do not dilute your truth by trying to remove certain experiences from it.
The truth is whatever you experienced in the past is influencing how you are experiencing what you are going through now. So in order for you to communicate the current experience to those around you, you have to acknowledge both experiences. You have to accept that the past has contributed to the present and you will be doing your truth an injustice if you ignored this simple fact. And remember ... timing is everything. Take a step back, think it through, construct your message and share it in palatable manner. Share your truth, at the right time and in the right way.
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