A couple of weeks ago, literally, I wrote about Process & Progress, challenging you to look back and appreciate the amount of progress you've made. Since then, I've had a couple of chats with a good friend of mine, Coach T (he's a life coach, hence the coach in Coach T - you'll ask him what the T stands for). He said something that I haven't been able to stop thinking about.
Progress does not neccesarily reflect process.
- Coach T
With his permission, not that he had a choice in the matter, I'm going to let you hear a snippet of the conversation ...
This is literally a plot twist from Part 1. And this guy just came for our - I'm going to include you in my suffering because we are family - throats! Like literally came for our throats.
We are still chilling here, looking back at the progress we have made, feeling proud, and boom! Here comes a splash of lukewarm water. It's not really cold water and here is why:
I don't think what he is saying diminishes what we spoke about in Part 1. In fact, it complements it. We just didn't expect it.
And now that I've had some time to think about it, I'm ready to share it with you and highlight the importance of it.
There are certain things that we have progressed from (and we should be proud of that), but we haven't processed them. And because of that, we haven't really healed.
This is what this guy is just trying to say. Look at the progress you've made, and while you are at it, process some of the stuff you have progressed from.
He also said something that wrecked me ... I won't even let you hear a snippet (because I want you to hear the voice in your head say this to you) ...
"Don't be fooled by the fact that you can progressively function and think that means you are healed."
I want to say a joke about calling the cops but you know what ... let me not! I mean, who gave this guy permission to talk to us like this? Oh ... I did, my bad!
This is a lot ... so let's just try and wrap it up (we'll call today's meal the T-wrap).
Progress does not necessarily reflect process. Just because you have progressed from that relationship or that soul-numbing job does not mean you have processed what it did to you and healed.
So now that we have taken the time and marvelled at our progress, reminding ourselves how far we have come, the challenge for this week is to process some of the things we have progressed from. And while we are doing this, may we find the healing we deserve.
Side note: I think this officially makes this guy our first "Special Guest" ... it will be interesting to hear what you think about what he had to say ... please let me know ... @mclegend_64 on all social media platforms (and my number might be somewhere on this website).
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