Today I have a simple thought that I want to share.
It is difficult to hold someone accountable for doing something you expected them to do.
If someone did exactly what you expected them to do, it is very difficult to approach them and hold them accountable. You expected them to do it, they did it, and all that's left is living with the consequences.
My challenge is simply this:
If you want to hold someone accountable for not doing the right thing, expect them to do the right thing.
Because a lot of the times we want to rush to people and say to them "You did this and that and that ... I knew you were gonna do it! I knew you were gonna disappoint me" and in the same breath, hold them accountable. If you knew I was going to do it, why are fighting? Why are you coming at me with this energy if you expected me to do it?
Disclaimer: The higher the expectation, the bigger the disappointment.
Crazy Thought: The bigger the disappointment, the more energy you will have for accountability.
As you go into this week, remember this: If you want to hold someone accountable for not doing the right thing, expect them to do the right thing so that when they don't do the right thing, you can be greatly disappointed and have the energy to hold them accountable.
The opposite of this scenario is summed up in this: "Aaah, mxm! I knew you were gonna do that." I have a story related to this, but I don't want you to use the story to distance yourself from this concept. Think about your life and the people you've let slide simply because you had low expectations, or put simply, because they did exactly what you expected them to do, despite that thing they did not being the right thing to do. You expected them to do you wrong, they did you wrong and you let it "slide".
If you want to hold someone accountable for not doing the right thing, expect them to do the right thing.
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